I picked up this notion from a book that I am currently reading. What an amazing analogy! It’s basically saying that you as a candle burn with light. You should always be willing to share your flame because sharing has no effect on your own flame but you should never give away your wax. The more wax you give, the more you diminish.
“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” – Bob Marley
“I will accept everything I am, and everything I am not.”
Life isn’t about keeping score.
It’s not about how many people call you
and it’s not about who you’ve dated, are dating, or haven’t dated at all.
It isn’t about who you’ve kissed,
what sport you play,
or which guy or girl likes you.
It’s not about your shoes or your hair or the color of your skin
or where you live or go to school.
In fact, it’s not about your grades, money, clothes, or colleges that accept you or not.
Life isn’t about if you have lots of friends,
or if you are alone,
and it’s not about how accepted or unaccepted you are.
Life isn’t just about that.
But life is about who you love
and who you hurt.
It’s about how you feel about yourself.
It’s about trust, happiness, and compassion.
It’s about sticking up for your friends and replacing inner hate with love.
Life is about avoiding jealousy, overcoming ignorance, and building confidence.
It’s about what you say and what you mean.
It’s about seeing people for who they are
and not what they have.
Most of all,
it is about choosing to use your life
to touch someone else’s
in a way that could never have been achieved otherwise.
These choices are what life is about. ::
It’s the action, not the fruit of the action, that’s important.
You have to do the right thing.
It may not be in your power, maybe not in your time, that there’ll be any.
But that doesn’t mean you stop doing the right thing.
You may never know what results come from your action.
But if you do nothing, there will be no result.
People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life…
Elizabeth Gilbert – Eat Pray Love