Feeling love, feeling free

  

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I didn’t think I’d ever fall in love again. After all the heart break that I’ve experienced in the past, I wondered whether I’d ever get that loved up feeling ever again. This was mainly because I have been through the university of love and failed hard in the past. 
Sure, I dated guys but when I met this particular guy, I was completely overwhelmed by how I felt in his presence. It was a different feeling that made me feel like a brand new person / given another chance. It’s still early days but I’m so positive about this new connection. And I know it’s not infatuation because I have learned how to control the feeling. 

I think one of the most important thing in a relationship is that whoever you end up with, should make you want to be your best you. They let you be who you are and the same the other way. 

I understand who he is completely and I accept him for who he is. It’s beautiful. 

I’m going to take my time with this one and embrace every moment that we have together.

Trust Issues

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Have you ever wanted to be more open but were afraid to lose it all?…. Have you ever wanted to tell all but was afraid to fall?

I have the biggest trust issues ever… I don’t know where it all started and why but it has made me more cautious, weary and guarded. 

I wish there was a magic wand to cast all my fears away… I just want to be cured from the questions that I ask myself in my mind. 

If there is that one person that I can bare all to one day… that person would be my hero because they saved me from my biggest weakness.

“He’s not perfect…

“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” – Bob Marley

On Soulmates

People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life…

Elizabeth Gilbert – Eat Pray Love

A love quote

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”

Pablo Neruda

Parable of the Four-Poster

Because she wants to touch him,
she moves away.
Because she wants to talk to him,
she keeps silent.
Because she wants to kiss him,
she turns away
& kisses a man she does not want to kiss.

He watches
thinking she does not want him.
He listens
hearing her silence.
He turns away
thinking her distant
& kisses a girl he does not want to kiss.

They marry each other–
a four-way mistake.
He goes to bed with his wife
thinking of her.
She goes to bed with her husband
thinking of him.
–& all this in a real old-fashioned four-poster bed.

Do they live unhappily ever after?
Of course.
Do they undo their mistakes ever?
Never.
Who is the victim here?
Love is the victim.
Who is the villain?
Love that never dies.

© Erica Mann Jong

He’s just not that into you

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If he doesn’t call you back… He’s just not that into you

A while ago I read a book called ‘He’s just not that into you’ – it made me realise many home truths about relationships and why they cause many issues. Here are several issues that many girls may have gone through with guys:

1. He doesn’t respond to your text messages

I have seen this happen many times and I find it funny but it gets others really frustrated. Typical situation where you send a text message to a guy and he does not respond but he updates his Facebook status, whatsapp, Twitter – whatever it may be. There is a clear reason why he is not responding to your message ‘he’s just not that into you’. It could be other reasons but if this is happening in a regular occasion, it is likely this is the case. Don’t fret, there are plenty more fishes in the sea as they say. If you are the type that requires immediate attention, this may not be the best mode if communication. Try setting up face to face meetings rather than relying on text messages. You may be able to establish a connection that way.

2. He doesn’t show that much interests in your interests

If you find yourself talking about something that you are greatly passionate about something only to find that he is not listening – he really isn’t making an effort with you and equally meaning that he is not that into you.

It’s understandable that not everyone you meet will not be interested in what you are interested in but it is courtesy to show an interest in someone’s passion. If this is not the case, just forget about any blossoming romance.

3. He only calls you when he wants something

I don’t even have to go there. If he calls you when he wants something, he is using you! He only wants you for his own selfish reasons. Get away fast! You will get hurt eventually when he finds a new toy.

4. He doesn’t show you any intention of committing to you

You’ve been ‘friends’ for a while but you’re no more than that. He shows no interest in making you exclusive – he’s just not that into you. Simple!

5. He friend zones you on a regular basis

Always saying that you’re his friend… Uh oh – not good if you’re looking for more than that.

In conclusion, you shouldn’t waste your time chasing after a guy if they are clearly not into you. It will all just end in heartbreak.