You are a candle…

I picked up this notion from a book that I am currently reading. What an amazing analogy! It’s basically saying that you as a candle burn with light. You should always be willing to share your flame because sharing has no effect on your own flame but you should never give away your wax. The more wax you give, the more you diminish. 

He’s just not that into you


If he doesn’t call you back… He’s just not that into you

A while ago I read a book called ‘He’s just not that into you’ – it made me realise many home truths about relationships and why they cause many issues. Here are several issues that many girls may have gone through with guys:

1. He doesn’t respond to your text messages

I have seen this happen many times and I find it funny but it gets others really frustrated. Typical situation where you send a text message to a guy and he does not respond but he updates his Facebook status, whatsapp, Twitter – whatever it may be. There is a clear reason why he is not responding to your message ‘he’s just not that into you’. It could be other reasons but if this is happening in a regular occasion, it is likely this is the case. Don’t fret, there are plenty more fishes in the sea as they say. If you are the type that requires immediate attention, this may not be the best mode if communication. Try setting up face to face meetings rather than relying on text messages. You may be able to establish a connection that way.

2. He doesn’t show that much interests in your interests

If you find yourself talking about something that you are greatly passionate about something only to find that he is not listening – he really isn’t making an effort with you and equally meaning that he is not that into you.

It’s understandable that not everyone you meet will not be interested in what you are interested in but it is courtesy to show an interest in someone’s passion. If this is not the case, just forget about any blossoming romance.

3. He only calls you when he wants something

I don’t even have to go there. If he calls you when he wants something, he is using you! He only wants you for his own selfish reasons. Get away fast! You will get hurt eventually when he finds a new toy.

4. He doesn’t show you any intention of committing to you

You’ve been ‘friends’ for a while but you’re no more than that. He shows no interest in making you exclusive – he’s just not that into you. Simple!

5. He friend zones you on a regular basis

Always saying that you’re his friend… Uh oh – not good if you’re looking for more than that.

In conclusion, you shouldn’t waste your time chasing after a guy if they are clearly not into you. It will all just end in heartbreak.



I’m a little bit of what you call a ‘truther’. I always search the conspiracy in a theory. I believe that symbols are embedded all around us. Some symbols are sinister and have a dark agenda behind them and others are just locked for a reason that may elevate our consciousness when we unlock them. We find symbols everywhere; in the logos that we see, the things that we buy, the songs that we listen to, even in numbers and dates. You cannot get away from the reality that there is hidden a mystery behind a symbol. One symbol can fill an entire novel. The Vigilant Citizen has great articles on symbols:

What will Matter

Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end.
There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days.
All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else.

Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance.
It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.
Your grudges, resentments, frustrations and jealousies will finally disappear.
So too, your hopes, ambitions, plans and to-do lists will expire.

The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.
It won’t matter where you came from or what side of the tracks you lived on at the end.
It won’t matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.
Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.

So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured?

What will matter is not what you bought, but what you built;
not what you got, but what you gave.
What will matter is not your success, but your significance.
What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught.
What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.

What will matter is not your competence, but your character.
What will matter is not how many people you knew,
but how many will feel a lasting loss when you’re gone.

What will matter is not your memories,
but the memories that live in those who loved you.
What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what.

Living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident.
It’s not a matter of circumstance but of choice.
Choose to live a life that matters.

Feeling Used…


No-one at any time should be and feel used. It is a horrible realisation when one encounters that someone may be using them for whatever reason. You suddenly feel as if YOU were not of value in the first place, rather, what you could offer them iS the main attraction. It is a horrible feeling that at times we do not want to admit to ourselves but by confessing that we may have put on our rosé coloured glasses to blind from the truth. The ugly truth that may make or break you… Do you stay or do you go?

Cherishing our Internal Mechanisms

Cherishing our Internal Mechanisms

We have always been taught to act a certain way, talk a certain way to various types of people. We have been conditioned to not go against the status quo and to conform to the things that have been presented to us in society.

But don’t be afraid to step out of the box and explore who you really are. Enjoy your quirks and be your true self.



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