No Expectations… No dissapointments 

  

Often, the things we expect lead to dissapointment when they happen unexpectedly. The quote above is kind of a mantra that I have developed somewhat… ‘No expectations, no disappointments.’ This quote can honestly be applied to absolutely anything (and it works!). 

It’s not something that is encouraged but at times, expecting the lowest outcome can produce the most pleasant results when something that happens is above your expectations. I tend to apply this mantra the most with personal relationships. 

I’ve stopped expecting so highly when it comes to people because they will let you down (sometimes at your most neediest). What is to be remembered is that you really have no say on how one conducts themselves, you can influence but if it’s not from their heart, is it really a behaviour that one can adopt? I’ve learned on my journey that the less you expect from someone, the more you will enjoy that relationship. 

For example, if you’re always expecting a phone call or text from somebody, you will be disappointed when that phone call or text does not happen. The next time that you call them, could end up in a bust up or even a little resentment.

So what do you do? 

Don’t expect anyone to do anything for you.

That’s it! 

This mantra is epic because it works! It really does. I’m genuinely surprised when people do certain acts for me and I’m grateful for them when they occur.
Try it today!! 
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Embracing Your Inner Child

When you were younger, the world was limitless and infinite. You could be anything and anyone. You could dream up places and fantasies that were undeniably possible. You lacked fear, you were fearless and no one could tell you anything. What happened to that child? What happened to YOU!

As we grow, the realities of the world and how it works dawns upon us. We are no loger fearless but in fact we fear everything and everyone. We care what people think of us, we watch what we say, we are careful what activities we partake. We place limits on EVERYTHING. We have instances of big dreams and how we can achieve them but we soon doubt ourselves and our abilities again. If only my younger self could help me out of the rut that I sometimes feel I am in.

Listen to her… Listen to him… Listen to what they are saying…

“Remember when you didn’t care what people thought about you… it didn’t even cross your mind.”

You embraced creativity…”

“You loved to laugh, you weren’t afraid to cry, you weren’t afraid to demand what you wanted”

“You made friends easily… You were intrigued by people.”

“You asked many questions… you weren’t afraid to ask.”

We all have different experiences but no one can deny that the possibilities are endless when we think like a child. Not childish but childlike.Image

It is ok to be angry sometimes

It is ok to be angry sometimes

Our emotions can take full control of our beings at times. Sadness can overwhelm us when we have suffered something tragic and happiness can fill our hearts when we experience something positive. Although we have been advised against acting in anger against someone else, I feel that it is healthy to let out anger in a productive way. People have cited drumming, boxing and dancing as a way of channeling their anger into something positive.

So the next time you feel in a predicament, think of ways to channel that anger into a productive activity.

Cherishing our Internal Mechanisms

Cherishing our Internal Mechanisms

We have always been taught to act a certain way, talk a certain way to various types of people. We have been conditioned to not go against the status quo and to conform to the things that have been presented to us in society.

But don’t be afraid to step out of the box and explore who you really are. Enjoy your quirks and be your true self.

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30 ways you should BE

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This is just great for those times when you lose perspective.

Credit Marcandangel.com
  1. When you wake up to a new day, BE grateful for another chance.
  2. When others take the easy road, BE the one who takes the right road.
  3. When something must be done, BE proactive.
  4. When several possibilities present themselves, BE decisive with your priorities.
  5. When achieving something is important to you, BE open about it and go for it.
  6. When the work seems overwhelming, BE concerned only with the next small step.
  7. When worries cross your mind, BE sure to focus on what you can control.
  8. When real problems arise, BE ready to address them upfront.
  9. When mistakes are made, BE okay with them and learn from them.
  10. When you have something to say, BE willing to speak up.
  11. When what has been done in the past still isn’t working, BE the needed change.
  12. When doubt is lingering in your mind, BE confident in your abilities.
  13. When others have a different opinion, BE open to new ideas.
  14. When others insist that it has to be a certain way, BE one with your intuition.
  15. When you’re feeling down, BE bold enough to smile anyway. 
  16. When you feel stress building, pause for a moment and just BE and breathe.
  17. When the unexpected occurs, BE flexible and adaptable.
  18. When something doesn’t make sense, BE assertive and ask questions.
  19. When someone hurts you, BE willing to forgive and love again.
  20. When a relationship continuously hurts you, BE willing to let go and refocus your love and respect inward.
  21. When someone has something you want, BE happy for them.
  22. When everyone seems to be competing, BE your own competition – beat your own records.
  23. When you feel pressured to be someone you’re not, just BE yourself. 
  24. When you aren’t sure what you have to offer, BE sincere and offer honesty.
  25. When you cross paths with a stranger, BE the reason they smile.
  26. When you feel on top of the world, BE the hands that pull others up with you.
  27. When someone you care about needs you, BE there without question or hesitation.
  28. When you truly love someone, BE loving in words and deeds.
  29. When it’s time to relax with your family, let go of everything else and BE fully present.
  30. When the day finally comes to an end, BE at peace knowing you did your best.

10 Things you Think about too often

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I read this post on another blog: marcandangel.com. I think that this will help many people to reframe and reposition their mind.

You do know you talk to yourself in your mind all the time, right?

Pretty much every one of us has a non-stop stream of thoughts – a mental monologue – that has a powerful impact on how we feel, how we behave, and how we live our lives.  Too often, this mental monologue consists of unhelpful thoughts that hinder our happiness and effectiveness.

Which is why it’s time to stop thinking about…

1.  Who everyone else wants you to be.

You were born to be you, not who they tell you to be.  You are not here to be perfect; you are here to be true.  Be gentle and kind to your heart and soul.  Accept who you are, where you are, and where you came from.

Don’t make a decision based solely on popularity, or based on what others think is right for you.  Just because others are doing something doesn’t mean it’s the best choice for you.

Listen to your gut.  Now is the moment to follow your intuition and pursue what matters most to you.  Reach deep within yourself and awaken to the purpose that moves you and makes you feel alive.  The world is filled with opportunities to do an infinite number of things, so why not align your efforts with the activities that speak to your soul.

2.  What you don’t have.

Instead of thanking the heavens for two strong legs and a body that’s capable of running and jumping and dancing, lots of people complain about their weight and appearance.

Instead of appreciating that they live in a country that protects their basic human rights and civil liberties, lots of people complain about laws, taxes, and politicians.

Instead of being grateful for the roof they have over their heads, lots of people wish they had a larger house and a fancier car.

Don’t be one of these people.

To witness miracles unfold in your daily life, count your blessings and be thankful for what you DO have.  Lots of people aren’t so lucky.

3.  What you fear.

As Franklin D. Roosevelt so profoundly said, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”

That’s the honest truth.  The real thing that keeps you down is fear.  The reason your fears have so much power over you is simply because you give them this power by thinking about them – the worst-case scenario, what you don’t want to happen, etc.

It’s time to take a stand.  It’s time to clear your fears from your thoughts.  It’s time to acknowledge that your fear of grief is far worse than the grief you fear.

4.  Old mistakes.

Why regret?  This moment doesn’t have any mistakes in it yet.  It’s brand new.

You have a choice to make right here, right now.  You can hold onto old mistakes or you can make progress going forward with the new beginning you’ve just been given.

It’s time to be bold.  It’s time to stop reading the previous chapter of your life and start writing the one you’re currently living.  Learn from your old mistakes and march confidently on.  Sure you’ll make new mistakes along the way, but that’s the whole point – you want to learn from new mistakes, not rot alongside old ones.

Living means taking chances that are worth taking and making mistakes that are worth making.  Right now is simply a new chance to get it right, but you have to let go and take this chance.

5.  Old wounds.

You will grow much stronger and find peace once you stop picking at your old wounds.  Consciously replaying a painful memory over and over in your head is self-abuse.  Your past has given you the strength and awareness you have today.  Don’t let it haunt you.  Celebrate it.

Your wounds are your wisdom.  Let them heal.  Let them scar.

In order for this to occur, you must know why you felt the way you did, what you learned from it, and why you no longer need to feel that way.  It’s about accepting the past, letting it be, and pushing your spirit forward.

You may carry a small scar with you for the rest of your life.  Realize that this is perfectly OK.  A scar is the effect of healing – it’s what makes you whole again. 

6.  Impressing the wrong people.

You could spend your entire life trying to impress everyone around you.  Of course, it wouldn’t get you very far.

Purposely impressing people is an act that brings nothing but a fleeting ego boost.  Be real instead.  Connect with fewer people on a level that is deeper and more profound.

If you want to impress someone, impress yourself by making progress on something you’re sincerely proud of.  It’s truly amazing what you can accomplish when you aren’t worried about what everyone around you thinks.

7.  Important dreams you aren’t actively pursuing.

The point here is simple:  STOP thinking and START doing.

The road of life is jam packed with dreams that aren’t going anywhere.  Why?  Because the people driving these dreams haven’t started their engines.  So many people endlessly put off until tomorrow what they could do today.  There are literally millions of promising, intelligent people in this world who have no plan at all, who wait for others to drive and steer their lives and their dreams for them.

Having a dream without an action plan is exactly like a beautiful sports car without an engine.  You know what she could do if she could do it, but she can’t. Turn your dream into an actionable plan and then start executing your plan.  Make no promise for tomorrow when you have the opportunity to make progress today.

8.  The impossible looking aerial view of a big project.

An aerial view of a big project always looks daunting.  But once you break it down into small parts, suddenly it’s no longer a big, impossible project.  It’s simply a bunch of little, achievable ones.

The key is to subdivide a big project into smaller tasks and break each task down further into logical steps for each task.  Thinking about the big picture is important on occasion to keep track of your progress, but on a daily basis you should be focused only on the step you’re taking at the time.

The toughest part is laying out what you actually have to do to get each task done, but it’s worth the time and effort.  By thinking about it, and breaking it down, you’ve already accomplished the hardest part – you’ve built yourself a step-by-step instruction manual for getting the project completed.  Read Getting Things Done.

9.  Situations you have zero control over.

Some parts of your life are simply meant to be lived, not controlled.  No matter what happens, no matter the outcome, you’re going to be just fine.  Let the things you can’t control, happen.

Spend your thoughts and efforts on controlling what you do have power over, rather than wasting your peace of mind on the uncontrollable.

10.  Another time and place.

Sometimes we avoid experiencing exactly where we are because we have developed a belief, based on past experiences, that it is not where we should be or want to be.  But the truth is, where you are now is exactly where you need to be to get to where you want to go tomorrow.

The present moment is always filled with wonder.  Right now is a phenomenon.  Right now extraordinary things are happening.  If you are attentive, you will see them.