My April Favourite Books

1. We Should All Be Feminists// Chimamanda Ngozi Adiche – This is an inspirational short read about why we should all be feminists. Beautifully written.

2. The Little Book of Confidence// Susan Jeffers – This book is literally so tiny and therefore easy to pop in your bag when you need a hit of motivation for the day. It is a book that you can read over and over again for that little bit of advice that you need to be able to tackle the day.

3. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff// Richard Carlson – This is my all time favourite self help book. I always find myself coming back to the book over and over because the message that the author postulates is a question that I will always remember whenever I start to worry… “will it matter in five years?” and the answer is always always ‘no!’. So don’t sweat the small stuff because it really doesn’t matter in the bigger scheme of things.

4. Change your Thoughts, Change your Life // Wayne Dyer – I haven’t finished reading this as of yet but I am loving this! You can change your world if you change the way you think. Easier said than done but it gives you the fundamentals as to how to achieve this.

To Audiobook or Not….

So, there has been a debate raging in my mind as to whether I should continue my Audible subscription. The idea sounded great at the time, I was browsing through the App Store on my iPad and lo and behold – Audible, a simple way of enjoying listening to a book without the hassle of reading. I purchased my first book with the only credit that I had for the remainder of that month. I downloaded the book of my choosing and off I was listening to an American narrator read a book to me like a spoilt child needing a good bedtime story (am I being too harsh?).

It appears to be a completely lazy way to ‘read’ a book but I tell you what, it’s actually more complicated than it seems. You see, there is a phenomena called ‘active listening’ that involves you actively digesting the information that is presented to you. Just imagine it as ‘chewing’ with the ears.It is not as simple as just sitting there and letting the narrator do all the reading for you. It still takes a lot out of you to actively partake in the narrative. It is in fact so easy to get so lost in the audio that you can lose track of what is actually being said. This results in various instances of rewinding the bloody thing to the point that you last paid attention.

It is also frustrating not having the words in front of oneself. I have spent my life reading words… Can I really introduce something new to the bedroom? Hey, are we still talking about books?

So what am I saying? Am I in favour or not?

Ok, my position is that I am neither for or against. To each their own. I personally don’t mind the experience. There are certain types of books that I would prefer to read the paperback version. There are other types of books where I wouldn’t mind perusing the electronic version and I’m sure there are certain types of books where I wouldn’t mind listening via audiobook. It is truly not the end of the world.

I do recommend it to people that are always on the go. Particularly those that drive everywhere. At least it is something productive whilst you are crumbling under the stress of traffic flow between home and your destination.

In conclusion, I will continue my subscription since I do drive to work and it is useful having literature playing in the background to sharpen one’s mind.

If you are indeed interested in audiobooks sign up to audible.co.uk 

He’s just not that into you

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If he doesn’t call you back… He’s just not that into you

A while ago I read a book called ‘He’s just not that into you’ – it made me realise many home truths about relationships and why they cause many issues. Here are several issues that many girls may have gone through with guys:

1. He doesn’t respond to your text messages

I have seen this happen many times and I find it funny but it gets others really frustrated. Typical situation where you send a text message to a guy and he does not respond but he updates his Facebook status, whatsapp, Twitter – whatever it may be. There is a clear reason why he is not responding to your message ‘he’s just not that into you’. It could be other reasons but if this is happening in a regular occasion, it is likely this is the case. Don’t fret, there are plenty more fishes in the sea as they say. If you are the type that requires immediate attention, this may not be the best mode if communication. Try setting up face to face meetings rather than relying on text messages. You may be able to establish a connection that way.

2. He doesn’t show that much interests in your interests

If you find yourself talking about something that you are greatly passionate about something only to find that he is not listening – he really isn’t making an effort with you and equally meaning that he is not that into you.

It’s understandable that not everyone you meet will not be interested in what you are interested in but it is courtesy to show an interest in someone’s passion. If this is not the case, just forget about any blossoming romance.

3. He only calls you when he wants something

I don’t even have to go there. If he calls you when he wants something, he is using you! He only wants you for his own selfish reasons. Get away fast! You will get hurt eventually when he finds a new toy.

4. He doesn’t show you any intention of committing to you

You’ve been ‘friends’ for a while but you’re no more than that. He shows no interest in making you exclusive – he’s just not that into you. Simple!

5. He friend zones you on a regular basis

Always saying that you’re his friend… Uh oh – not good if you’re looking for more than that.

In conclusion, you shouldn’t waste your time chasing after a guy if they are clearly not into you. It will all just end in heartbreak.

Now I Stop Reading a Book If I don’t Enjoy It

Now I Stop Reading a Book If I don't Enjoy It

I have felt the pressure of having to finish all the books that I pick up. But truthfully, at times I do not enjoy most of the books that I read. This is down to a variety of factors;

1. IT IS NOT ENGAGING ME ENOUGH TO CARRY ON

It is important to catch the readers attention within the first line. It is ok to build up the tension and the suspense but when I have read several chapters and it is still not engrossing me, I have no choice but to put the book down.

2. LITTLE OR NO CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT

If I sense that the characters in the book that I am reading are flat and have no depth to them, I cannot say that I will be impressed overall with the book that I am reading. At times, the story is so engaging but the characters go through a journey of little or no growth. I find it important that the character/s of the story go through some sort of change and evolution. It makes the whole experience a little more rewarding.

3. THE STORY IS BORING… PERIOD

If the main story is something that I have little care for, it is very unlikely that I will carry on reading. I am open to any kind of story, as long as it is interesting.

4. TERRIBLE WRITING

Have you ever watched a movie adaption of a book and then decided to read that book because of how interesting you found the movie but realised that the writing is either convoluted, hard to read or flat?

Well I have… and I will not name any names but this really irks me.

 

So to end… Don’t feel obligated to finish reading a book if you are genuinely not enjoying it because who has time for that? 

 

(By Danli Rose)